In previous posts, we have discussed the issue of pet custody after divorce or a breakup (of cohabiting partners). Despite the fact that many Americans consider their dogs and cats to be members of the family, there are few (if any) laws that dictate how custody decisions should be handled. State laws still treat pets as property, which means that if there is a dispute, the spouse who can prove purchase or adoption is usually granted custody.
Our last post discussed talking to your kids about divorce. Today, we're going to jump ahead to the issue of co-parenting after divorce. Although opinions differ on many aspects of co-parenting, there is general agreement about one type of co-parenting scenario: attending public events your child is involved in.
Divorced co-parents don't always see eye-to-eye on the appropriate ways to raise their children. In fact, that may be an understatement. There have been numerous examples of parents taking one another to court over differences in religious beliefs and even whether the child is allowed to get his or her ears pierced.
Over the past decade or so, there has been increasing public debate about gender bias in child custody decisions. The commonly held belief is that courts too often favor giving custody to mothers, often to the detriment of both children and fathers who want to stay actively involved in their children's lives.
In our post earlier this week, we discussed the common co-parenting mistake of asking your kids to keep secrets from their other parent. While many divorced parents do this, it is a mistake because it can put your children in an awkward and even emotionally traumatizing position. Choosing sides isn't something kids should have to do.