When a couple divorces, they may have a great many things on their mind. Bitterness, frustration or other emotional upset over the ending of their marriage. Financial worries, with concerns over what their economic condition will look like after the divorce. If they have children, the details of their child custody arrangements, if they will receive or pay child support and how to deal with separate households with their kids.
Modern physics teaches that the presence of an observer potentially changes the outcome of an experiment. Some seem to feel that a similar situation exists with regard to the potential for divorce. There is a view that believes that if you think about divorce, discuss it with your spouse or friends that it will, like a contagion, begin to spread and that you will then have an urge to file one of your own.
A couple of weeks ago, we shared some tips for divorcing parents on how to successfully co-parent their children, even when the parents' relationship is rocky at best. In today's post, we will discuss something few divorcing parents look forward to: the conversation where you tell your children that Mom and Dad are getting a divorce.
If you and your spouse are experiencing significant marital challenges, you may be considering attending couples therapy. Couples therapy can be a very beneficial experience for you and/or your spouse. However, it is important to understand that simply because you are attending couples therapy, your marriage may still end in divorce.
If you and your spouse have opted to divorce, you are likely anything but indifferent towards the divorce process itself and you are likely anything but indifferent towards your spouse. The very thought of your spouse likely inspires intense emotions that may include sadness, anger, frustration, guilt and/or longing. The idea that your spouse inspires strong emotions within you is completely understandable. However, it may benefit you to opt for indifference towards your spouse in a specific way during the divorce process.