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Factors that affect the cost of a divorce

22875714_S (1).jpgEnding a marriage is rarely simple for Missouri couples. There are a number of factors that should be considered in addition to the social and emotional toll divorce takes on an individual. One of the biggest factors is the expense. Whether a person uses an attorney or not, divorce almost always involves taking a financial hit. However, if a divorcing couple plans ahead, they may be able to save themselves money.

The cost of a divorce in the United States is about $15,000 per person on average. This cost includes things like court fees, attorney fees, hiring financial experts, visiting mental health professionals as well as the cost of hiring realtors and appraisers.

Many factors contribute to the "gray divorce" trend

35462374_S (1).jpgThe good news for most couples planning to tie the knot in Missouri is that overall divorce rates have declined over the past few decades. However, this isn't true among one notable age group: individuals 50 and over. While the term "gray divorce" was first used around 2004, it's a trend that has existed longer than that. The stigma attached to ending a marriage has diminished, but this isn't the only reason why some people choose to split later in life.

Finances, for instance, can contribute to the decision to divorce after years of marriage. Money issues can involve everything from squabbles about debt and spending to differences in who earns what. Research suggests that marriages become stronger if the husband earns more, but the reverse is true if the wife earns significantly more. Other times, older couples simply grow apart or realize once children are grown that they no longer have the same feelings toward one another.

Same-sex divorce often raises difficult legal issues

110454438_S.jpgAlmost half a million gay couples around the country have married since the U.S. Supreme Court made its landmark decision in Obergefell v. Hodges in 2015. Research suggests that same-sex couples divorce at about the same rate as heterosexual couples, which means that almost half of these couples have already divorced or will divorce in the future. This is a delicate legal issue because the rules dealing with same-sex divorce are still evolving in Missouri and elsewhere.

Before the Supreme Court ended the debate about the legality of same-sex marriage, many states allowed gay couples to enter into domestic partnerships or civil unions. If those couples later married and then file for divorce, they may need to dissolve these arrangements as well as their marriages. However, this is not always the case as many states converted domestic relationships to marriages following the Supreme Court decision.

Avoiding certain costly divorce mistakes

37970727_S.jpgMissouri residents who are getting a divorce should take care to avoid certain mistakes during the process. These mistakes can result in very costly consequences in the future.

Having certain records on hand is necessary to make informed decisions about certain divorce issues. Once divorce seems inevitable, it is important that individuals begin to obtain records that detail the balances and account numbers for all financial accounts. It is also necessary to have on hand Social Security documents that report a spouse's earning records and expected benefit payout for the future. Records that show the amounts that have been paid for highly valuable assets and for major home improvements should also be gathered. Having all of these documents on hand can help with both deciding on divorce settlement terms and planning for taxes and retirement.

Divorce is becoming increasingly common among people over 50

39458626_S (1).jpgOlder people in Missouri, including those who have been in long-term marriages, are getting divorced in increasing numbers. Two sociologists determined that in 1990 only about 10 percent of people getting divorced were 50 or older. Just 25 years later, the figure had grown to 25 percent. Among these gray divorces, over half of them involve couples with marriages of over 20 years.

People at this point in their lives typically have multiple assets when they seek divorces. Real estate and retirement accounts represent two common forms of wealth that the splitting spouses must divide. If people want to keep the family home, they need to think about their ability to pay for upkeep and property taxes. Alternatively, two people can sell a home and split the proceeds. As for retirement accounts, these are generally divided equally unless some portions are traded for other assets. Tax consequences could come into play when people distribute retirement funds.

Disparity in attractiveness and divorce risk

70992692_S.jpgIf one person in a couple is significantly more attractive than the other, this could eventually cause problems in the relationship. An article in "Psychology Today" reported that according to research, couples who are not at similar levels of attractiveness are less likely to have a successful relationship.

This was the case despite the fact that in one study, husbands with more attractive wives, as rated by undergraduates, tended to be happier and more helpful to their wives than other husbands. Other research indicated that women who considered themselves more attractive than their husbands flirted more and were less committed to the relationship. According to another study, jealousy from the less attractive partner tended to be the culprit rather than a lack of commitment.

Addressing child support

37348092_S.jpgWhen parents in Missouri decide to divorce, one area of contention can be child support. In many cases, however, parents are willing to put aside strong feelings in favor of negotiations that center the child's best interests. These families often forgo lengthy litigation and opt to negotiate child support between themselves.

In general, the law acknowledges the importance of both parents providing financial support for their children. When parents have an accurate understanding of each other's finances, as well as their children's needs, there is groundwork for being able to decide what an acceptable level of child support ought to be.

Tax changes to know about for 2019

44968867_S.jpgDivorce can be difficult for anyone who is going through it. However, Missouri residents and others will need to be aware of key recent tax changes that may play a role in a divorce settlement. Perhaps the most well-known change is that alimony will no longer be a tax deduction for the payer. This could mean that those who are asked to make such payments will pay less than in previous years.

Those who are set to receive payments may try harder to get as much as possible since they no longer have to submit taxes on that money. There are a couple of other changes that are related to the new tax law, and they could impact those who have prenuptial agreements or try to modify their agreements in 2019 and beyond. Individuals who have a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement may benefit from reviewing and renegotiating their deals prior to 2019.

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