Given the fact that grandparents play such a vital role in a child's life, in our last post we focused on why grandparents should maintain relationships with their ex-son-in-laws and ex-daughter-in-laws. This is not intended to create a rift between an adult child and their parent, but rather to strengthen the bonds and maintain visitation time with grandchildren after a divorce.
When adult children get divorced, grandparents often worry about what their role is going to be. Will they get to see their grandchildren as much? Will maintaining a relationship with an ex-son-in-law or ex-daughter-in-law seem like picking sides? How should grandparents talk to their grandchildren about the divorce?
Grandparents can end up playing a rather unique role during a divorce. While the grandparents want to be there for their adult child who is going through the divorce, the same grandparents also want to continue to maintain a close relationship with their grandchildren and be there for them emotionally during this time. However, while being there is one thing -- and is encouraged -- grandparents need to make sure to not overstep their boundaries.
When adult children go through a divorce, grandparents often find themselves in a sticky situation. While they want to be there for their adult children, it's important that they do not say or do anything that could end up backfiring on their relationship with their own children and grandchildren.
Over the years, more and more grandparents -- especially single grandfathers -- have been raising their grandchildren. In turn this has meant a loving, caring and supportive home for many children, and has even kept grandfathers feeling younger as they buy things like iPods and plan birthday parties. However, it should be noted that these living situations are family law matters where legal issues can arise.
As we discussed in the last post, divorce can be hard on all members of a family, even grandparents. This is especially true when grandparents feel pushed away or left out following the divorce of their children. A recent article in The Huffington Post provided some tips for grandparents who are experiencing this phenomenon.
It's a sad reality, but sometimes divorce can be just as hard on grandparents in Missouri as it is on the rest of the family. As a recent article in The Huffington Post reported, it is quite common for grandparents to feel pushed away or alienated from their grandchildren after the children's parents go through a divorce.
In February this blog covered a case about a child visitation court battle between a set of grandparents and the mother of a 3-year-old girl. At that time the paternal grandparents of the child had been awarded every other weekend visits with the girl, however, the mother had broken the court-ordered agreement and moved with the child out of state.