In divorce it is normal to have hurt feelings, maybe even feel like life would be easier if an ex-spouse was simply never around again. However, when children are involved -- and an ex is a good parent -- trying to stop him or her from being a part of their child's life is selfish and hurts the child.
Understandably, a divorce is hard on any father. There are worries associated with child custody, visitation schedules and the division of marital assets. However, children do not need to be swept up in the chaos between their divorcing parents. This is why it's important for fathers and mothers to take steps to reduce the stress and conflict in their children's lives.
In Missouri, father's rights with respect to their children can become vulnerable during the divorce process. However, while it used to be that the court system favored mothers, many courts are now considering other alternatives to better involve fathers, including physical and legal custody, along with joint custody that revolves around co-parenting.
While we tend to focus on the negative aspects of parenting after divorce, Missouri parents should know that there are plenty of parents who cope just fine with split custody schedules and co-parenting. In these type of situations, not only do the parents benefit from each being able to spend time with their children, the children also benefit from being in a safe, loving environment where their parents are able to work together to make sure their needs are met.
Being a divorced father who is co-parenting with an ex-wife can certainly be difficult -- especially if the father and mother don't get along. This being said, parenting is something that doesn't end at a certain age. A father's role is not over in his son or daughter's life once he or she reaches the age of 18. This means co-parenting also continues on, which is why it's important for both parents to be able to work together from the very start to be able to keep a strong bond with their children.
One of the biggest issues that many couples handle during a divorce is child custody. Usually, both parents want what is best for their children and both want shared child custody. However, sometimes parents have different ideas about what is best. If both parents share custody, they might decide to take a co-parenting approach. This means both parents are active participants in the child's life, even if it is about an event that happened with the other parent.
When it comes to divorced parenting, nowadays more and more Missouri fathers are participating in co-parenting with their ex-wives. And while this is certainly greats news for children and dads alike, fathers and mothers both need to be cognizant of the "co" part of "co-parenting."
It's always a nice idea to think that you and your ex-wife will go through a divorce and one day be able to work together to co-parent your children. And while for many this may be true, the truth is that in some situations your ex-spouse will continue to be hostile well after a divorce and make it difficult for you to deal with their antics and raise your children together.