We have previously written that social media and family law disputes are often a dangerous combination. Whether going through a divorce, child custody or spousal support dispute, discussing details on Facebook or other social media platforms will rarely, if ever, work in your favor.
But even if you don’t directly discuss your divorce or custody case, the seemingly innocuous things you do post could be used against you by your spouse and his/her attorney. Facebook has become an evidence goldmine, and it’s hard for the average person to predict how their pictures, wall posts and status updates could be interpreted or misinterpreted.
In light of all this, it should be clear that avoiding social media during your family law dispute is smart from a legal standpoint. But there are also arguments to be made for why keeping your relationship problems off of the internet is a good idea from a social standpoint.
First of all, it’s important to remember that for all intents and purposes, the internet never forgets. The things you post about your ex right now could make things more difficult if you ever decide you want to start dating again. People tend to be more guarded when they are around someone without a filter, so to speak. This is true of potential dates as well as friends.
Second, detailing your relationship problems online could cause unnecessary strife with people who are friends with both you and your ex. The more details you disclose, the easier and more tempting it is for skeptics to challenge your version of events.
Finally, there is something to be said for maintaining your dignity in the wake of a difficult divorce or breakup. Badmouthing your ex online can make you seem petty, even if your complaints are true and legitimate. And although social media can be a way to seek out support from loved ones, most people are put off by a friend who broadcasts their personal problems openly and in great detail.
To be sure, social media can be a great communication tool. But during and after a family law dispute, please choose your words carefully and think before you post.
Source: The Huffington Post, “10 Reasons To Keep Your Relationship Problems Off Social Media,” Chris Armstrong, April 27, 2015
