Understandably, a divorce is hard on any father. There are worries associated with child custody, visitation schedules and the division of marital assets. However, children do not need to be swept up in the chaos between their divorcing parents. This is why it’s important for fathers and mothers to take steps to reduce the stress and conflict in their children’s lives.
First remember that the term “broken family” is outdated. Rather, look at the situation as a “bi-nuclear” family. This means each parent works together to raise their children and create loving households. One way to do this, aside from not talking negatively about the other parent in front of the children, is to try and live somewhat close to an ex-spouse. This way there is not as much distance for the children.
Along these same lines, when it comes to behaviors to avoid, remember that children cannot handle adult problems, nor are they messengers. This means no talking about money concerns or what is going on in the courtroom when the kids are there to visit. Children should also not have to report on what their other parent is doing or be the one to bring the child support checks home.
Keep in mind that while the marriage did not work out, there are children involved and there will always be a connection to an ex-spouse for this simple fact. This means the more parents are willing to work together on parenting and remain cordial, the easier the transition will be not only now, but years later down the road.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Parenting Tips While Going Through Divorce,” Micki McWade,” Oct. 30, 2012
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